Loneliness Is Killing Developers

Here’s the cure for it

David Goudet

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My mom never let me out when I was young, so I missed most (if not all) of the parties I was invited to, even during my studies at university.

I realized when I was young that I was an extrovert and not having many friends while growing up, no girlfriend, or social activities, was hell. Even traveling alone could become a miserable experience if you enjoy talking to people.

Today, I’m a software engineer working remotely. If I don’t keep social healthy habits, I could spend hours at night scrolling through social media, craving the social interaction I didn’t have during the whole day.

Social isolation knows no age or boundaries.

The health risks are as bad as smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day, and even greater than those associated with obesity and physical inactivity.

Dr Vivek Murthy

The Problem

When I was a little kid, I accompanied my grandmother to buy some groceries in the local market (not the supermarket). Every 5 minutes she would interrupt our trip to say hello to some vendor, or neighbor.

Some days ago I was in a supermarket in Spain and while I was silently shopping, many elderly people were talking to the cashier, asking him about his holidays and his family.

We don’t do that.

We learned to be on our screens, we are afraid of talking to others, and we are afraid of others talking to us. And that my friends, is the complete opposite of what humans did for thousands of years.

That’s the perfect recipe for mental issues.

Recent reports indicate that as much as 33 percent of the world’s population is lonely. Specifically, people ranging in age from 16 to 24 report feeling lonelier than their older counterparts. More than 10 percent of people in this age bracket say they are lonely on a regular or daily basis.

Discomfort

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David Goudet

Senior Software Engineer from Venezuela living in Madrid. Top Writer in AI and Technology. Singularity University/US Dept of State alumni.